I read a quote this year that basically posed the question, if you knew exactly when you were going to die, how differently would you live your life today? It sounds depressing at first…why would you want to know when you die? But it makes such a great point! I think if most of us knew exactly when we were going to die, we would live our lives to the fullest every single day because we’d want to make the most of the time we knew for sure we had.
Shortly thereafter, I read something similar that pertained to relationships. For those of us who are looking for a long term, committed relationship, what if we knew for sure we were going to find it and we even knew when it was going to happen? How would we live our daily lives then? I think most of us would feel an immense sense of relief. I think a lot of times, half the battle is not knowing if it’s even going to happen for us. Keeping the faith that we are going to find someone is the biggest obstacle. So if we had that question answered for us, imagine how that would change the game. We could go through our days not worrying when and if we were going to find that person. We could just enjoy our lives. We would do all those things we wanted to do as a single person or things you can’t always do when you’re in a long term relationship.
The reality though is that we can’t know exactly when our lives are going to end. We can’t have a guarantee of if and when we’re going to meet someone we’re compatible with and will be in a long term relationship with. But what we can do is live our lives to the fullest as if we did know that. We can take advantage of every moment of our lives just because. We can do all those things for ourselves that we’ve wanted to do. Travel to those countries we’ve wanted to. Cross things off our bucket lists. Nothing in life is ever guaranteed and there’s some things we just can’t control, but we can control ourselves. We can control how we live our lives and what we contribute to the world.