On Working Out

Working out has always been a sensitive topic for me. I’m not able to do a lot of the standard workouts. I can’t go to spin class or run on a treadmill at my local gym. I have a lot of internalized ableism I’m working through and a side effect of that is that my … More On Working Out

On Keeping Pace

I want to preface this post by saying that I know people with disabilities that use a wheelchair have an entirely additional set of circumstances and frustrations in the ways people interact or behave. What I speak to below is based only on my own personal experience. When you’re living with a disability there are … More On Keeping Pace

On Isolation

Isolation is a term that’s come up a lot in the last two years. But when you’re a person with a disability, it’s not just something that comes up at the onset of a global pandemic. For me, feeling isolated started pretty much from the moment I understood I was different from anyone else. From … More On Isolation

Letting Go

I’ve been pretty tightly wound most of my life. Like I said in my last post, I wasn’t always like that. But as I let my experiences in the world chip away at and change me, that changed too. There are two moments that stand out the most significantly to me that I’ll share. Two … More Letting Go

On Self-Acceptance

I wasn’t always like this. I grew up as a fun-loving and even outgoing kid. Totally unconcerned with the world around me and what it thought. But at some point, I started letting the stares of other people in. The comments. The teasing. I started to look around and realize I wasn’t like my classmates. … More On Self-Acceptance

On Being Left Behind

I thought once I got my COVID vaccines that I could finally leave behind having to blog diatribes. But here we are, almost 2 years later and I still haven’t been given that opportunity. Today, California decided to lift the mask mandate altogether, for everyone, whether you’re vaccinated or not. The fact that this happened … More On Being Left Behind

On Writing

Over the past year, during lockdown and staying home, I had plenty of time on my hands. I watched every show imaginable. Streamed every movie. I slept. I drank a lot of wine. I took a free online class to learn about Hinduism. But what I didn’t do was write. The amount of times I … More On Writing

On Gaslighting

This is Wikipedia’s definition of the word “gaslighting” – a word that I never really knew the definition of before the past few years when it seemed to explode into the zeitgeist. As a person living with a disability, I’ve had many experiences where people have not just minimized my experience, but have actually made … More On Gaslighting

Things Not to Say to a Disabled/High Risk Person During a Pandemic

Over the last 7 months, I’ve heard a lot of things in relation to the pandemic. Some have been said directly to me and some not. Either way, I wanted to compile a handy list of things people really shouldn’t ever say to someone who has a disability or who is high risk for COVID … More Things Not to Say to a Disabled/High Risk Person During a Pandemic